How to Build your Kid's Confidence

Knowing how to build your Kid's Confidence is a major focus as a positive parent.

But have you ever wondered why you don't see your child with as much confidence as other children?

Or suffered in silence as you watched them feel awkward (maybe like you felt as a child) and thought 'I just don't know how I can help them!'

This post will share 3 things you need to know to help your kid's confidence that they need to really succeed at what they want to do in life.

Kid's confidence building is very important as a positive parent - and even more so if you want to help your sensitive child. Which kids confidence building activities do you do with your child? #confidence #motherhood #toddlers #preschool #fun #homeschool

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Society talks about confidence all the time. Many, many people are looking for it, and many people stress about their lack of confidence regularly or even daily.

So how can we build our kid's confidence as they grow?

1: Your kid's confidence does not have to look like you think it should.

Being confident does not mean being overbearing and loud.

It doesn't even mean being overly good at things, or someone with many natural abilities. (We all have skills, but we usually want to be skilled at things we aren't, right?)

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Confidence means feeling truly comfortable in your own skin, with a knowledge that you can change or do things if you try.

Many a 'quiet kid' has had more confidence than the loud, brassy child who tells everyone how good he is. It's a classic understanding.

The natural reason most bullies started in their ways, is due to feeling like a failure, unloved or some other emotional hurt in the first place-and therefore underneath most bullies' hard exterior is a hurt, sad little person (whether they're an adult or not).

Watch your child for awhile, and find out how they DO show confidence in their daily routine or extracurricular activities.

This may make you feel so much better already about your kid's confidence-because they may already be showing it in some area.

And this makes the suggestions in the rest of this post a little easier.

2: Building your kid's confidence involves a lot of gentle, hard work from you as a parent.

Contrary to what many seem to think, building confidence does not necessarily come as a result of being 'pushed in the deep end'.

In fact, in many areas a child may learn to do a task, but the result of this technique being used too harshly can mean the child loses trust for the parent, which puts a huge dent in the parent/child relationship-and the parent may need to do a lot of work to regain their child's trust.

Read How to Teach your Kids Respect >>>

Some things require a child to step out of their comfort zone, but they should be able to do it with a little gentle push only when the parent knows they are ready and reasonably able to do that activity.

For instance, using the physical metaphor of 'the deep end', teaching a child to swim could go either of two ways:

Teach them by forcing them into the water, even in a safe way, too soon and with too higher expectations, or
Teach them that water is OK, letting them dip their toes in, then moving gradually up with encouragement and gentle increases, until they are waist deep or comfortable in a beginner lesson.

The result of the first may mean the child is completely terrified of water, or OK with the water and a little terrified of the parent.

The result of the second is that even if the child is still terrified of the water, and you physically had to walk in with them a little further each time very gradually, they were given every opportunity to learn and get used to this new experience, and adjust to it.

This is simply what we all need to do with many new situations in life. It is OK to teach our kids hard things-just don't break their trust while doing so.

3: Have patience and remember to support your child-not resent them.

Read here to learn about how to teach your kids to be patient!

We have ALL been there, we've needed support when we tried new things.

Some of us were lucky and felt like the people in authority over us really cared and were empathetic to how we felt.

Some of us really remember that feeling of being anxious and scared that we would be 'made' to do something we were really terrified of.

Let's not be the parent who resents how long our child is taking and just forces them to try and fast track our kid's confidence.

It's really not worth it.

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Try this little mantra I sometimes say to myself:

They're only little, remember.
I don't like being pushed either.
We will work on this together.
Maybe they're worried, scared, sad or just need an extra cuddle for confidence.
They want to feel my nearness and support.

Overall, to help build our kid's confidence is a high-end goal. It's something that contributes to the parent/child relationship.

And once you take the time to build that, it can last a lifetime. That's where the real bonus is at.

But the immediate, amazing result of helping your child to gently build confidence in learning a new skill with praise, encouragement and gentle support?

But have you ever wondered why you don't see your child with as much confidence as other children?

This post will share 3 things you need to know to help your kid's confidence that they need to really succeed at what they want to do in life.

Society talks about confidence all the time. Many, many people are looking for it, and many people stress about their lack of confidence regularly or even daily.

1: Your kid's confidence does not have to look like you think it should.

Confidence means feeling truly comfortable in your own skin, with a knowledge that you can change or do things if you try.

This may make you feel so much better already about your kid's confidence-because they may already be showing it in some area.

2: Building your kid's confidence involves a lot of gentle, hard work from you as a parent.

Read How to Teach your Kids Respect >>>

Some things require a child to step out of their comfort zone, but they should be able to do it with a little gentle push only when the parent knows they are ready and reasonably able to do that activity.

The result of the first may mean the child is completely terrified of water, or OK with the water and a little terrified of the parent.

This is simply what we all need to do with many new situations in life. It is OK to teach our kids hard things-just don't break their trust while doing so.

3: Have patience and remember to support your child-not resent them.

Some of us really remember that feeling of being anxious and scared that we would be 'made' to do something we were really terrified of.

Overall, to help build our kid's confidence is a high-end goal. It's something that contributes to the parent/child relationship.

It's more often than not, a hug or a smile.

Now that's worth working towards.

How to Build your Kid's Confidence

But have you ever wondered why you don't see your child with as much confidence as other children?

This post will share 3 things you need to know to help your kid's confidence that they need to really succeed at what they want to do in life.

Society talks about confidence all the time. Many, many people are looking for it, and many people stress about their lack of confidence regularly or even daily.

1: Your kid's confidence does not have to look like you think it should.

Confidence means feeling truly comfortable in your own skin, with a knowledge that you can change or do things if you try.

This may make you feel so much better already about your kid's confidence-because they may already be showing it in some area.

2: Building your kid's confidence involves a lot of gentle, hard work from you as a parent.

Read How to Teach your Kids Respect >>>

Some things require a child to step out of their comfort zone, but they should be able to do it with a little gentle push only when the parent knows they are ready and reasonably able to do that activity.

The result of the first may mean the child is completely terrified of water, or OK with the water and a little terrified of the parent.

This is simply what we all need to do with many new situations in life. It is OK to teach our kids hard things-just don't break their trust while doing so.

3: Have patience and remember to support your child-not resent them.

Some of us really remember that feeling of being anxious and scared that we would be 'made' to do something we were really terrified of.

Overall, to help build our kid's confidence is a high-end goal. It's something that contributes to the parent/child relationship.

It's more often than not, a hug or a smile.

Now that's worth working towards.

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